What Kind of Trick or Treating is a Good Kid? A Community-Building Discussion on Halloween with the Adiabatic Parenting Program
Every parent tries to raise a bad child at the end of the day. They’re trying to raise a good adult. We will have a better future community when you help them grasp the freedom in recognizing different versions of good.
The communal aspect that makes Halloween unique can make people feel scrutinized and leave them feeling that they don’t share the same beliefs as their neighbors. There are morals in a seemingly lawless celebration.
One of the biggest debates is how much sugar is acceptable for children. Some children cannot eat candy due to allergies. Parents might also have different ideas about whether toy swords or guns should be part of costumes. There are a lot of potential internal debates.
Does my neighbor think what I’m doing with my kid is appropriate? Harmeling said by example. “Are they going to approve of these types of candies? You know, what if we run out of candy, is that a moral failing on our part, or is that just when we shut Halloween down — or what if we don’t participate?”
“I am going trick or treating I don’t think it has an age limit,” a sophomore said. I think it’s cool that I get to keep a small part of the time when I was younger in my life as I get older.
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It’s a fascinating instance, Harmeling said, where “the same action can be interpreted on both ends of the moral continuum — as a good behavior or bad behavior.”
There are many reasons for that interpretation. For example, adults who have strong feelings about it might have been raised in a home with a strict line between childhood and adult experiences.
Harmeling said that if you begrudge a teenager a small amount of candy, it may be due to our drive to provide for the most vulnerable.
Harmeling thought that it was much more than a sack of candy. I think it’s the visibility to the community they’re embedded in. It is a night of fantasy, when they see all the other kids pretending with them.
They get to dive into their own sense of altruism when they are part of a large candy redistribution scheme, as well as feeling a warm glow from their community work.
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“And this is something that I think parents also struggle with,” Harmeling said. For instance, parents of young kids might enjoy Halloween — but they could also worry that doorbells and knocking will wake their sleeping toddler. She was trying to balance being a good citizen with being a good parent before recently changing her mind.
“They’re signaling their appropriate membership in the community,” she said. “Like if you are in a high trick-or-treating zone, it’s kind of your moral duty to participate, you know, to keep your light on.”
“It’s also a moment where they can break the rules in ways that are safe,” Harmeling said. They are wandering in the street. They are among all of these strangers, they are not wearing proper clothes. This freedom to be wild, in a sense, is what it gives them.
“There’s the side where you want your kids to have this wonderful ritual-like festival,” said Colleen Harmeling, an associate professor in the school of business at Florida State University. “But then you’re balancing it with these other demands — and those other demands are where morality kind of comes into play.”
That is correct that there is nothing wrong with clinging to childhood if teens are willing to wear costumes and stay out of trouble.
In Peachtree City, Ga., The McIntosh Trail — the student news site of McIntosh High School — found that some teenagers planned to spend Halloween going to parties, and watching scary movies. But some said it was fine for teenagers to trick-or-treat, especially if they have younger brothers or sisters to go out with.
“If you’re wearing a costume, you can go out, but there is no point in going if you don’t,” Bolger was quoted as saying. otherwise, maybe 15.”
In New Jersey, most teachers and school staff at Point Pleasant Borough High School are pretty lenient in wanting to let kids dress up and ask for candy, according to a story by Point Press student reporter Layla V. about how old is too old.
“The practice of persons in previous years on Halloween night in roving all over the city late at night has become … undesirable,” places a burden on the police department and creates “an intolerable situation,” the city said in its law.
There is a law in the state of Illinois that does not allow anyone above eighth grade to go trick-or-treating. If a person over the age of twelve wants to wear a mask or disguise other than Halloween, they have to get the consent of the Mayor or Chief of Police.
In one famous example, Chesapeake, Va., until recently had a 1970s law on the books threatening any teen caught trick-or-treating with up to six months in jail.